The very first guy I ever kissed had a motorcycle. He was 18 years old, I was 16, and we worked together at Baskin Robbins. I was completely smitten! He was older than me, confident, in college, and had a motorcycle. Yeah, I know what your thinking, TROUBLE!!! Not because of the motorcycle, but because why would a college boy be into a high schooler unless he is a player. Well long story short he was a player, he broke my heart, and a few boyfriends down the road I am now married to an amazing man!
So what is the point of me telling you this? Well, the owner of this motorcycle (my husbands friend) want’s me to point out that not all men with motorcycles are jerks. And that is true, but not my point. No, my point is that here I am, 9 years later and I have a happy life. I have a husband who is WAY hotter than that boy was, I have two beautiful kids and I am happy. But when I got dumped by that boy when I was 16, I felt like I was going to be miserable and lonely for the rest of my life (teenage drama!). At that time it was hard for me to see the big picture. I didn’t know that I was going to learn how to look out for red flags from that little relationship I had, or that I would have another relationship and learn from that one, and do that again and again, until eventually I would meet the right person. My person.
You see, when we are upset and going through something we tend to crumble in on ourselves and forget the world around us and about the future. Which is fine in the moment and totally normal. But after we have cried and mourned, it’s important that we learn to see beyond that hard time, beyond the haze of our trial, and trust and know that we will be ok and life will go on, and one day we will look back on that trial and realize that we learned and grew from that trial.
I guess that is what is supposed to happen. If we aren’t able to look forward during our trial with hope, then we risk the chance of letting that trial consume us and not come out of it better. I don’t know if that made sense. I guess what I am trying to say is, there is always hope and an opportunity to learn, even in the darkest of times.